Family Planning Therapy
Online therapy for women and families across New York State
Therapy to help you plan for the future
Does the question of having children keep you up at night?
You’re a complex and multifaceted individual, yet somehow not having a child (or having another kid) seems to be all that anyone talks to you about these days. It may feel hard to drown out the noise from everyone else’s unsolicited opinions and get a clear sense of what you want. “How” feels like the question of the century (e.g., egg freezing, IVF, adoption, etc.). Perhaps you want children but the idea of becoming your parents sends chills down your spine.
Whether you’ve aspired for parenthood since childhood or were certain that you wanted to be the child-free and bougie aunt, your family-planning dreams have always been in your control. Now, they’re not and it may feel like you’re spiraling.
Family Planning Uncertainty Taking Over Your Life?
Regardless of your questions about the future, you may be noticing a real impact on your physical, emotional, and mental well-being. Therapy for family planning may be for you if you:
Struggle with indecisiveness and are having a hard time separating what you want from what other people want for you
Feel anxious before and during conversations about having children
Ruminate and worry about whether you want children (or how to raise them)
Avoid people and conversations about fertility, children, or your future
Feel, depressed, lost, or overwhelmed
Experience more tension or conflict with your significant other, family members, or friends about having kids
Avoid places and things (i.e., movies and shows) about fertility and family planning and feel angry or uncomfortable when reminded
You may be on the fence about children or feel certain that you want them but struggle to move forward because of how you were raised. Let’s face it, you’re convinced that you’ll be a ‘mini me’ of your parents/caregivers. My clients struggled with the same thought: raising kids who would inevitably endure similar painful experiences they did. Fear was in the driver's seat but I helped my clients regain control.
You can be who you needed when you were younger. In therapy, we will understand the root of your concern, explore other ways it shows up in your life, and end negative generational cycles once and for all. In time, you’ll gain the tools necessary to “reparent” yourself today so that you feel certain of how you raise your children tomorrow.
You’re not your parents…
You Can Feel Certain Again: Choose Lavender Therapy
My Goal
It’s okay to not know right now. My goal is to support you through your unique reproductive journey and (re)discover life where you feel certain and in control again.
My Process
Your unique experiences and perspectives will guide our individual therapy sessions. Together, we will establish goals for treatment and use proven techniques to explore the complexities of womanhood, fertility, and agency so that you feel empowered to make decisions about your future. I also offer integrated couples therapy sessions (as needed) for my partnered clients.
My Promise
I am committed to providing a compassionate and non-judgmental space for you to express yourself and explore hard questions. I strive to create a safe and inclusive environment for women of all backgrounds, cultures, and identities.